What does it take to be a
good friend, partner, or lover? I have been pondering this equation for
awhile. Most of us over analyze, and take something that should be
simplistic ,and make it complex. Sincerity, warmth, compassion ,
honesty and respect are all components. sometimes .I wonder if the deal
breaker is simply unrealistic expectations......too many get caught up
in either romantic notions or are very self absorbed, and then some are
easily influenced by others, whether it be family or friends. As I have
always believed, we need to learn to think for ourselves.....before we
listen to others.....and of course truly understand what our personal
beliefs and needs are . We tend to blame others for their short-comings
, but actually the fault may lay within ourselves. What is it that
motivates us.....and furthermore just how committed to ones convictions
are we ?
For myself....I have taken risks, and to some degree am fearless.......
For most individuals the biggest risk of all in life is learning how to
truly care for another individual....the ability to give of
oneself...and most end up sabotaging themselves in the process....it is
heart breaking to watch. We need to develop and grow , evolve mentally
and spiritually.......Life is imperfect, and to expect others to be
....is unrealistic and unfair. I have known a few individuals that have
led a very charmed life....which makes it more difficult for them to
understand and comprehend those less fortunate than them selves....No
one is perfect nor can they fulfill all that is lacking within
ourselves....What one CAN DO is Enhance, inspire , and motivate us to
become a better person...be more aware of our own faults, and perhaps
less judgmental of others. TRUST AND TIME are the most critical
components of relationships.......To trust someone implicitly, and give
them the necessary time to evolve and in some cases .....learn to place
their trust in others. This process can not be hurried.....it must
evolve .....as the saying goes:
"Patience is a virtue---and good things come to those who wait !"
~Just a beautiful day in the neighborhood.......
Yours In the fire
The Phoenix
good friend, partner, or lover? I have been pondering this equation for
awhile. Most of us over analyze, and take something that should be
simplistic ,and make it complex. Sincerity, warmth, compassion ,
honesty and respect are all components. sometimes .I wonder if the deal
breaker is simply unrealistic expectations......too many get caught up
in either romantic notions or are very self absorbed, and then some are
easily influenced by others, whether it be family or friends. As I have
always believed, we need to learn to think for ourselves.....before we
listen to others.....and of course truly understand what our personal
beliefs and needs are . We tend to blame others for their short-comings
, but actually the fault may lay within ourselves. What is it that
motivates us.....and furthermore just how committed to ones convictions
are we ?
For myself....I have taken risks, and to some degree am fearless.......
For most individuals the biggest risk of all in life is learning how to
truly care for another individual....the ability to give of
oneself...and most end up sabotaging themselves in the process....it is
heart breaking to watch. We need to develop and grow , evolve mentally
and spiritually.......Life is imperfect, and to expect others to be
....is unrealistic and unfair. I have known a few individuals that have
led a very charmed life....which makes it more difficult for them to
understand and comprehend those less fortunate than them selves....No
one is perfect nor can they fulfill all that is lacking within
ourselves....What one CAN DO is Enhance, inspire , and motivate us to
become a better person...be more aware of our own faults, and perhaps
less judgmental of others. TRUST AND TIME are the most critical
components of relationships.......To trust someone implicitly, and give
them the necessary time to evolve and in some cases .....learn to place
their trust in others. This process can not be hurried.....it must
evolve .....as the saying goes:
"Patience is a virtue---and good things come to those who wait !"
~Just a beautiful day in the neighborhood.......
Yours In the fire
The Phoenix